Thursday, November 9, 2017

Two Months in Stillwater

It's been two months since I moved to Oklahoma. Since my one month update, I feel like nothing has really changed, but at the same time like so much has.



Life in Stillwater // Living in Stillwater has made me realize just how much I need a city. There is just not a lot to do in Stillwater, especially when you don't know anyone. The small town vibes mean that everyone does things with their family or significant other, and a lot of events are focused toward families and college students. I need a bigger city for the social life and the opportunities. 

There also aren't that many opportunities to get involved in the community. I've been searching for volunteer opportunities, but they're all during the day when I'm working or "full." That's pretty odd, in my opinion, especially since this is a college town and students are looking to build resumes, but they're just used to driving an hour in any direction toward a bigger city.

I've also been struggling with the "transitional" nature of Stillwater. It's a college town, so everyone cycles through. My one friend is graduating with an MBA in May - so once he leaves, it'll be like starting all over again. 

This also means that everyone who is a "permanent" resident is significantly older than I am, and most likely married, which leads to a really mundane and boring social life.

On the flip side, I still love living alone, and I've gotten into a really good routine. (Mostly because I don't have a social life interrupting it.) It's going to be a wake-up call to have a roommate again wherever I move next!

Socially // This is definitely where I'm struggling the most. I feel like I am trying so hard to reach out to people, get involved, do things, go out of my comfort zone of talking to people I don't know... and I keep falling short. I don't know if it's because I'm not from Oklahoma or didn't graduate from the University here... but it is so hard to make friends. 

Most girls my age are engaged or married, and for some reason, that means that they don't like to go out and do anything. It's so strange. I've honestly never seen anything like it.

I joined a bible study group with the bigger "mega-church" here, but I don't know if I'll continue going. I can't see myself really fitting in with the church too much - I really don't think I can get used to the idea of watching a pastor speak in a pre-recorded video from a screen. It's some people's cups of tea, but I don't think it's mine. On the flip side, I'm having a hard time walking away since it's the first time I've had weekly plans since moving here.

Another odd thing about life in Stillwater is the age gap. I mentioned it a little in the first part of this blog post, but it's becoming more and more prevalent the more that I try to get involved in the community. For example, the ADPi Alumnae group I mentioned in my previous update... is me, a couple of girls in their late 20s, and then a bunch of middle-aged, older women. Which is fine... but something tells me that they won't want to grab drinks after work or go dancing on the weekend.

The age gap also showed itself when I went to a political organization's meeting. It was me, some college students, and like nine 70-year-olds. I still think it's kind of funny and ironic, but again, something tells me that they won't be great people to grab coffee or drinks with.

I have a couple of friends at work, but they're exclusively work friends. Not by my choice, they just don't ever want to do anything outside of the office no matter what I suggest. Office happy hour? Nope. A food truck event at 5:30 on a Tuesday evening? Nope. Going to a basketball game? Nope. It's their choice, but frustrating nonetheless.

Dating // Absolutely zero update. Like I mentioned in this post and in last months, nearly everyone I've met is in a relationship. I don't think I'll ever get over how abnormal it is, especially in a college town.

Work // Now that things are slowing down with football season and fall events (Homecoming, for example), so is my job. As I'm writing this, I'm almost 2 weeks ahead with content creation. I'm nervous for the spring and summer seasons because there really will be nothing going on. But once they're over, we're back to fall and then I will start applying for graduate school.

I wasn't sure where to put this, but I've decided to enroll in a course next semester as a non-degree seeking student. I petitioned for in-state residency and was approved for tuition, and with my job I receive a 50% discount, so it's really a great option. I'm hoping that this once again will provide an opportunity to make friends and meet people. I'm now just trying to decide which course I want to take!

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  1. Goodness this post and your first one seriously make me feel l like I wrote this myself about my move to Vermont! Stillwater sounds a LOT like Vermont haha!! Just know that I can TOTALLY relate to you girl, hang in there!!! I'm glad work seems to be providing some good opportunities for you!

    xoxo A
    www.southernbelleintraining.com

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    1. I think they're super similar!! We're in it together 👯‍♀️

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  2. I think enrolling in a course is a great idea! Hopefully meet some new people!

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  3. Enrolling is such a good idea! I live in Boston, and have had some issues finding friends since everyone out here knows everyone from college!

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  4. That mascot is just awesome! Never realized how big the head was until someone is standing next to it.

    xoxo, Paige
    www.midwesterncharmblog.com

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  5. Have you tried meet up.com? Its just a place to find ppl with the same hobbies/interests to meet up with :) Maybe give it a try!

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    1. Unfortunately it hasn't reached Oklahoma yet :(

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  6. Love your post! Have a great time there :)

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  7. Moving to a new town seems really hard. I know I would have a difficult time meeting people. I think it is so cool you are taking advantage of the opportunity to take a class with your employee discount, I think that will be a great way to keep you busy and meet awesome, growth oriented people!

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  8. I don't know if I could ever move to a town by myself, so so much power on you for taking that risk! Hopefully something on the social front will turn up soon!

    xo
    Sami
    The Classic Brunette

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  9. Making friends in a new town can be SO difficult! I think the church group sounds great for breaking up the monotony of your day to day schedule, but if you don't feel comfortable don't keep going! You'll find something you enjoy doing soon!

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  10. Picking up a class sounds like a great idea- I know how hard it can be to make friends the older we get- It seems like 20 something is an odd age in small towns!
    -Nicholle
    www.nichollesophia.com

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  11. Interestuing post! I love to see how the course goes!

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  12. Props to you for moving some where by yourself! Every move I have / going to have I at least know noe person / have family close by so it was a little bit more comforting.

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  13. My ex went to Oklahoma State and it seemed like the most boring college town haha. I hope you're able to find some friends in your new city soon!

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