Wednesday, October 11, 2017

One Month in Stillwater

How crazy is it that one month ago I packed all of my earthly possessions in a budget truck, got in my car, and drove with my parents halfway across the country to move to Oklahoma?! It has been a whirlwind one month full of life transitions and lessons.

Life in Stillwater // Moving to a college town in Oklahoma has been a bit of a culture shock. I've never lived in a town this sized - Columbia and Atlanta were both the state capitols and the largest cities in South Carolina and Georgia. 

When I was looking for apartments in Stillwater I was a bit nervous because everyone kept telling me that my apartment was on the outskirts of town and I would have a long commute. Well, turns out my commute is only 7 or so minutes. That is enviable to all of my friends in Atlanta/Columbia.

This is also my first time ever living alone... and I love it. I like being able to do my own thing and not have to consider other people in the apartment. For instance, I loooove watching the morning news. After my shower, I turn it on for background noise as I get ready and watch it for the rest of the morning. On the flip side, sometimes I do miss having someone to chat with after work.

Socially // I'm not in college, I'm the same age as a lot of people in college, and I live in a college town. To be completely honest, this has been really hard. Nearly everyone I work with is a good 8-15 years older than me, married, and has kids. In addition, I can't really get involved on campus like I did my freshman year of college when I was in the same situation. I get along with all of my co-workers so during work I have people to talk to and be social with, but when I get home... not so much. 

I am an introvert so forcing myself to go out and be social and make friends is really uncomfortable to me. I don't mind being alone, but I really dislike going places alone, so if there's an event I'll usually talk myself out of going for fear of sitting by myself or being social and having it backfire. 

I am trying to work on that, but it's not something that I can change overnight either! I think a lot of it goes back to being in a college town and either lives here their entire life/is established in the community, or moves here for college and then moves away after graduation. There is an ADPi alumna group in Stillwater (who would have thought?) so I plan on getting involved there and hopefully meeting some girls through that!

As for church, most churches are either older and smaller or young megachurches. I'm not really into the latter, so I still need to do some shopping around. I need a nice mixture of traditional-style with young members too. (I might be dreaming on that one.)

Dating // Simply put: everyone in Oklahoma is either in a relationship and about to be engaged, engaged, or married with kids. It's weird. I've never met so many people in relationships - especially in a college town. (I'm not even trying to date anyone right now anyway, but it would be nice to have someone to go out and do things with!)

Work // I really really like my job. I think I got really lucky that my position is new and I'm new in the workforce too! The only downside is my lack of emotional connection to the school. I like the school, don't get me wrong, but I have an emotional connection to my alma mater more than I will for another school. I think that's just how it goes, and how people working for other schools that they didn't go to get too. It is what it is.

All of that said, it's not bad. This isn't the first time I've moved to a new state without knowing a single soul, and I feel confident in saying that it certainly won't be the last time.

I'm trying to be patient with everything and trying to convince myself (the truth) that Rome wasn't built in a day, and I will eventually make friends/have a social life/etc. 


  1. Props to you for making such a big move! So great that there's an alum group in town, hopefully you'll be able to make some connections there!

  2. I totally know what you mean about living alone, I miss it sometimes!

    Lauren Elizabeth
    Petite in Pearls

  3. I LOVED THIS! It's so scary moving to a new place on your own. Also I wish my commute was like 6/7 minutes, I live in the city and sometimes getting to work can be over an hr! I'm looking forward to reading more updates on your life in Stillwater. <3

  4. Girl I felt reading this like I was reading one of my own moving updates!! It is HARD to move out of state when you're on your own!! And hard to church hunt, date, etc. Yes, yes, yes. I'm jealous there's an ADPi alum group near where you live!! There isn't one where I moved to which is too bad. That's awesome that things have been going so well at work!! Focus on that. I wish I could say it will all get better with time... it hasn't really for me, but hey, everything happens for a reason right? Keep smiling!

    Pi Love,

    xoxo A

  5. That's awesome things have been going well at work!! I hope everything else starts falling into place for you too <3 It's always rough after a move!

  6. That's a big life change and adjustment. Give it time for things to fall into place. So happy you like your job.

  7. It definitely takes time for things to fall into place. Hang in there, girl!

  8. Sounds like you're settling in really well! I'm sure friends won't be far behind!

  9. It sounds like you are transitioning well! Liking your job is extremely important. The rest will fall into place!

  10. Wow! Huge props to you for making such a big move on your own. I'm sure it will all slowly but surely start to fall into place. I'm in West Texas, Lubbock to be exact, so we aren't super far away.
    xo, Lily
    Beauty With Lily

  11. Glad to hear to settling well! I'm making a short term move soon and I'm nervous about the transitino!

  12. You are so brave for moving to a new state all by yourself, it always takes some time to transition to a new town but I hope you get the chance to find some friends and settle down soon!

  13. Love your blog Tori! Moving to another state or country is never easy!

  14. I love hearing you talk about Oklahoma because that's where my boyfriend and his family are from! We don't live there, but I have met a few people from Stillwater and Norman and I totally understand what you mean! I'm glad you love living alone, I don't know if I would like it much!

    Kayla |


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