Whenever I tell people that I'm an introvert, nobody ever believes me! But I promise, I am! My official personality type from 16 Personalities (a Myers-Briggs based test) is ISTJ-T. Introverted, observant, thinking, judging, and turbulent. (LOL - sounds aggressive, but other ISTJ's include Denzel Washington, Natalie Portman, and Hermione!!)
I definitely consider myself to be an outgoing introvert, and in a field where my career is based of my public speaking ability it is SO important not to shy away from people like I want to most of the time!
Throughout the years I've learned a few tips and tricks to make me seem more outgoing and extroverted than I am! And then, when everything is all said and done, my bed is there to welcome me home!
Fake it 'til you make it // The biggest lesson I have learned over the years is that if people think you are extroverted, the more extroverted you will feel. So when I really have to be extroverted, I force myself to smile bigger, laugh more, comment on more things, and people naturally just think that I'm more outgoing and extroverted!
Comment on things // We all have opinions. I've learned that just simply stating my opinions sometimes can start conversations and lead to friendships. I found this especially helpful my freshman year, and I still use it in classes to this day! Even commenting, "Wow I'm bad at accounting," can lead to the person sitting next to you agreeing, and asking if you want to study. (That sounds like something a "high school girl" magazine would say, but that is a personal anecdote!)
Learn to laugh at yourself // This goes hand in hand with embracing your natural awkwardness. Introverted and shy people act differently around people than extroverted people do. Conversation doesn't flow as easily, and sometimes awkward things slip out! The key to all of this is just laughing at yourself and your mistakes! Another quick anecdote, but my college campus has an insane amount of uneven bricks and I trip over them pretty much anytime I walk anywhere. This leads to me saying, "OMG Tori, watch out!" and then laughing at myself because I'm walking around campus talking out loud to myself. Super awkward, but the key is that I can laugh at my own mistakes and not beat myself up over them!
Reward "good" behavior // After a long hard day of talking to people and being "on" constantly... the only thing I want is my BED!! (And Grey's Anatomy and a glass (or bottle) of wine.) And that is A-OKAY!! Exerting enough energy to get through the day can be hard! But you did it, and just like the other amazing things you do, you should be rewarded!
Are you shy? How do you get through your days?
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