Tips for Shy Girls

Whenever I tell people that I'm an introvert, nobody ever believes me! But I promise, I am! My official personality type from 16 Personalities (a Myers-Briggs based test) is ISTJ-T. Introverted, observant, thinking, judging, and turbulent. (LOL - sounds aggressive, but other ISTJ's include Denzel Washington, Natalie Portman, and Hermione!!)

I definitely consider myself to be an outgoing introvert, and in a field where my career is based of my public speaking ability it is SO important not to shy away from people like I want to most of the time!

Throughout the years I've learned a few tips and tricks to make me seem more outgoing and extroverted than I am! And then, when everything is all said and done, my bed is there to welcome me home!

Fake it 'til you make it // The biggest lesson I have learned over the years is that if people think you are extroverted, the more extroverted you will feel. So when I really have to be extroverted, I force myself to smile bigger, laugh more, comment on more things, and people naturally just think that I'm more outgoing and extroverted!

Comment on things // We all have opinions. I've learned that just simply stating my opinions sometimes can start conversations and lead to friendships. I found this especially helpful my freshman year, and I still use it in classes to this day! Even commenting, "Wow I'm bad at accounting," can lead to the person sitting next to you agreeing, and asking if you want to study. (That sounds like something a "high school girl" magazine would say, but that is a personal anecdote!)

Learn to laugh at yourself // This goes hand in hand with embracing your natural awkwardness. Introverted and shy people act differently around people than extroverted people do. Conversation doesn't flow as easily, and sometimes awkward things slip out! The key to all of this is just laughing at yourself and your mistakes! Another quick anecdote, but my college campus has an insane amount of uneven bricks and I trip over them pretty much anytime I walk anywhere. This leads to me saying, "OMG Tori, watch out!" and then laughing at myself because I'm walking around campus talking out loud to myself. Super awkward, but the key is that I can laugh at my own mistakes and not beat myself up over them!

Reward "good" behavior // After a long hard day of talking to people and being "on" constantly... the only thing I want is my BED!! (And Grey's Anatomy and a glass (or bottle) of wine.) And that is A-OKAY!! Exerting enough energy to get through the day can be hard! But you did it, and just like the other amazing things you do, you should be rewarded!

Are you shy? How do you get through your days?

Be Where Your Feet Are

I've been finding myself thinking a lot about "what might have been" recently. What might have happened if I said something else, or reacted differently in a situation. Unfortunately this leads to a lot of me being totally consumed with what happened in the past, instead of focusing on the day in front of me.

Whenever I find myself thinking too much about things that I can't go back and change, I have to remind myself to be where my feet are - in the now. My feet are with me in the present, and they'll be with me as I move forward into the future, but they can't ever go back in the past.

A quick example, here: yesterday at our first home football game, as I was walking into the student section my phone fell out of my hand and landed screen first onto the ground. I knew as soon as it landed that it was most likely shattered and I didn't even want to pick it up. I did though, and yep - I was right. My screen is super shattered, and as someone who has never cracked a screen before, it's really disappointing. I think about it every time I look at my phone - which as a 21 year old, is a lot! But what was I going to do? Go back in time and not accidentally drop it? Magically heal the screen without dropping $100? I can't do that, so I just had to embrace the fact that my screen is cracked and I have three options moving forward: paying to replace it, living with a cracked screen, or waiting until my contract is up and I can upgrade to a new phone.

The past is in the past for a reason. Yes, maybe things would be different if we had done or said different things, but we didn't! Things are the way that they are for a reason - and if they are meant to be different, then they will all fall into place eventually.

As humans we are constantly moving forward. We have to keep our eyes on the prize and move forward until we get where we're going. We have to be where our feet are.

Life Lately

These past few weeks have been an absolute whirlwind. Everyone is back from summer vacation and it's the 4th week of school, so classes are really picking up. Football season is in full swing, and I've decided to change career paths (maybe.)

Wait, what?!

No, I know. Same. If you had asked me where I wanted to be in the next five years, I would have said: New York City, working as a journalist for NBC and/or the host of the Tonight Show. Or I would have said: In a big city somewhere working for a sports team as a reporter and host. (Lofty goals, I know.)

Now, if you ask me what my five year plan is... I honestly have no idea. I've been toying around with the idea of pursuing a Masters in Political Science or potentially even law school ever since I got back from the Middle East. The more and more I've been thinking about it, the less disadvantages I see with giving it a try. Politics and news is why I got into journalism in the first place, I'm young and can move anywhere, I have the extra money in my college fund... Why not?

I'm scared and have doubts all the time. I graduate in 3 months and I'm changing career plans. None of my internships have been designed to help me get into graduate programs for political science or law school. What in the world am I doing?!

It's been a lot to think about, and it will continue to be a lot to think about until I make a decision, which has to be soon in terms of GRE tests and LSAT preparations, not to mention applying for other jobs just in case!

At the end of the day, this is the first time in a long time that I have been excited for the future. And that's incredibly important to realize.

Weekly Recap

This past week has been really overwhelming. You may have noticed that I've been really lacking on posts these past couple of weeks. I come home from work and class and don't even look at my computer when I got home. I'm simply exhausted from class and from work that the blog is the last thing I want to work on.

My life has been crazy recently. I'm going to do a more detailed post about this next week... but in short, if you had asked me even a week ago what my 5 year plan was, it's SO DIFFERENT now!

A friend and I watched the sunset from the top of our football stadium this week... It was in the opposite direction, but this view is just as pretty. One of the many perks of working in the stadium.


I have so much to share this week because there were a ton of things from the past few weeks that I wanted to share too!

Zion's New Hands // I remember watching this story unfold last year and just thinking about how incredible this child is. Zion is truly amazing, and everything he says just makes me tear up! He told the Today Show that his favorite thing about having new hands is being able to wrap them around his mom... I literally started to cry even though I had just done my makeup. Ha!

Humans of New York: Headstrong Project // I love this series by Humans of New York. I love most of his series, but Veterans rights in the USA is a platform that I really am all about. (I did a story last year for a reporting class on service dogs for PTSD veterans that you can watch here!) This particular interview really got me crying. So good and so sad - but with a sweet ending.

Nathan for You // Y'all. This is my new obsession. I went over to a friend's house on Saturday and they put on Nathan for You... I could not stop laughing! It is so funny!! If you haven't watched it before, you won't regret it! I've linked one of my favorite sketches, but they're all great. I'm really not sure how he does this with a straight face!

Laurie Hernandez on Dancing with the Stars // I'm so excited that Laurie Hernandez is joining the cast of Dancing with the Stars!! I hope I'm able to keep up with this season! I love Laurie and she is literally the picture definition of someone who can brighten a room immediately after they walk in! I can't wait and I hope she does well. (She's joining fellow Olympian Ryan Lochte on the cast, too.)

Grace VanderWaal - Beautiful Things // I shared Grace's first audition on here and now it's finally time for the live shows on America's Got Talent! Grace is so amazingly talented, I can't believe she is only 12 years old!! She is so incredibly talented and I think that will only increase with age.

FSU Player Eats Lunch with Autistic Boy // I'm a total sucker for stories like this y'all. College football players, especially at big and well-known universities can be so cocky sometimes so it's refreshing to hear of one that is realizing that his "fame" can give back to the community.

How I Wake Up Early

Ok, I usually am not really a fan of those posts that are something along the lines of "how to become a morning person!" because I don't believe that you can just become a morning or night person. As we grow older, our schedules change and we have to adapt to them, but some people wake up earlier than others and some people can stay up into the night and not even think twice about it.

With school in full swing, my routine has become more concrete and those early mornings are getting (somewhat) easier. And although I'm lucky that I am a morning person, getting up can still be really hard!

When I posted my morning routine last week, I was really surprised at how many people commented on how early I wake up! I guess I'm just used to it at this point, and don't see it as all that early. (When I worked for MSNBC in February, we had to be there for the morning shows at 5:30 so my alarm went off at 3:30. Now THAT was an early morning wake up call!)

Alarm Clock // I don't use my phone as my alarm. Seriously! I have a $10 alarm clock from Target that I love. It really helps me get out of bed and not look at my phone first thing in the morning! It's also just far enough from where I sleep that I have to at least partially sit up to turn it off. I seriously recommend getting one!

Breakfast // I mentioned on my morning routine post that I don't know how people can do mornings without breakfast. It is the best part of my day!! Okay... maybe that's an exaggeration, but still. Breakfast it something I look forward to to give me the energy that I feel like I'm lacking from an extra few minutes of sleep. I eat huge, indulgent breakfasts, too, so I'm always looking forward to it from the second my alarm goes off to when I'm finally sitting down to eat it.

Down Time // This almost goes hand in hand with breakfast. I remember in high school, my best friend told me that she woke up at 5:45 every day to get ready. She explained that she hated feeling rushed and didn't want to half-ass something because she spent extra time laying in bed. Now that I'm in college, I totally understand it. I love having extra time in the morning to do one thing at a time, or sip on my coffee while I watch the Today Show, rather than drinking coffee, eating breakfast, watching the Today Show and doing my makeup at the same time.

Notion of Productivity // I'll be honest with y'all... there are totally some days when I'm guilty of snoozing my alarm, skipping my workout, and laying in bed for an extra 40 minutes. (But I never actually go back to sleep... it's a weird genetic thing I share with my dad.) The fact that I'm still up before 6:00 makes me feel more productive in a weird way though! Ultimately, that's the best part about waking up early: everyone is so impressed with you and makes you feel put-together regardless of how you actually spent the morning.

Attitude // At the orientation for my internship, we got the pleasure of talking to the strength and conditioning coach for the football team. Every time I don't want to get out of bed in the morning, I can literally hear his voice in the back of my head telling me to get up! He mentioned that you'll really only be tired for a few minutes in the morning, regardless of what time you get up, so there's not really a huge point in snoozing your alarm until the last minute. That is so true! Once my alarm goes off, sure I want to get back to sleep, but when I'm up I'm up and ready to start my day.

What time do you wake up? How do you get up early?

Game Day

Y'all... waking up this morning was better than Christmas. It's FINALLY football season in South Carolina!! If you follow college football (closely or not closely) you probably know what the SEC is and let me tell you, college football is practically a religion down here. (Saturday's are spent at the stadium and Sunday's are spent in the chapel. It's true.)

For me, football season is like the official start to fall, even if it is still 100 degrees outside (and never really gets colder... I wore the same outfit to our first game last year that I wore to our last one in late November! Classic SC weather). I love everything about game day, despite the fact that our team is really not all that awesome. (But who knows, it's a new season!)

In honor of the return of one of my favorite seasons, I've compiled a few pictures from game day past to share with y'all. Keep scrolling until the end for a special surprise... ;)

Freshman year homecoming with Darius Rucker!!! He is a HUGE Gamecocks fan, along with the rest of Hootie! (Pardon the quality... iPhone 4s were still trendy.)

After beating Clemson for the 5th time an a row... A memory I will never forget.

Front row on College Game Day!!! Another memory that I will never forget. Through our sorority we were all able to get on the front row without having to sleep outside. Everyone hated us but it was so worth it. (I ended up getting claustrophobic and had a panic attack and had to leave early... but that's another story for another day!)

On the field after being named Carolina's #2 Fan! ;)

And last but not least, the beautiful sunset at the beginning of last season, before getting beat by Kentucky and having our worst season in years. But it's fine and I'm totally over it.

Since you made it to the end... I want to share my #1 fan entry video with y'all from sophomore year! I came in second place (as pictured above) but I'm proud of what I was able to do. I hope y'all enjoy!

Go Gamecocks!!!!

P.S. Sorry about the overuse of Y'ALL in this post! I joke with everyone and say that the only time I have a southern accent is when I'm talking about football! And it's not wrong, ha!