Monday, August 29, 2016

Focus on Your Lotus

I've been talking a lot recently about positivity and happiness here on the blog and I've been thinking the entire time that both of those things are linked together by one thing: focusing on yourself.

When you tell someone that you're "focusing on yourself," they leave with the idea that you're totally selfish, and I hate that!! Focusing on yourself is a great way to live (within reason). Enter: lotus of control.

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I love the lotus of control concept. In a nutshell, there are two lotuses: internal and external. Someone with an internal lotus of control believes that they can influence events and their outcomes, and someone with an external lotus of control believes that outside forces influence everything.

I'd like to think that I have a pretty strong internal lotus of control. I definitely know that I used to think externally, until I realized that no matter what I did, someone would be unhappy with the decision. It simply became exhausting to try and focus on how everyone else was reacting to a situation, so I tried really hard over the past few months to focus on me and how I was responding to a situation. The result has been a more positive life and more self-confidence.

It can be really hard to focus on just yourself and the way you're reacting, but it is so worth it in the end!

Have you ever heard of the lotus of control?

21 comments :

  1. I've briefly heard of the "lotus of control" and I would like to say I have a strong internal lotus of control!
    -Anna | www.fivefootandfabulous.com

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  2. I definitely need to focus on how I respond to things better, too. Some things just get me so reactive it's no good.

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  3. What an interesting concept, Tori! Definitely cool to think about how different the external and internal are.

    xoxo A
    www.southernbelleintraining.com

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  4. Very interesting to read about. I'd love to learn a little more about this as well.

    xoxo, Jenny

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  5. Such a great read, I loved learning about this kinds stuff!

    http://xoxobella.com

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  6. Do you use crystals? I've heard the lotus in reference to spirituality a lot and crystals as well, so I just wanted to see if you did or not.

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    1. No I don't! I just read about the lotus in one of my psychology textbooks and the concept stuck!

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  7. I've never heard of this before but it sounds so interesting! I'll have to look more into it.

    Greta | www.gretahollar.com

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  8. I've heard of locus of control, not lotus of control, but the concepts sound identical. I always fall in the middle with a slight lean towards internal. I think an internal locus of control is good, but it's always important to remember that sometimes we can try our best and the universe just has a bigger plan.

    - Rachel | www.theconfusedmillennial.com

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    1. I totally agree! Sometimes you can control things and other times it's totally out of your hands, but you can still try and choose to respond productively.

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  9. this is awesome. I've never heard of the lotus in this way before, but taking a moment to think about internal/external factors of control is always a positive step in the day, whichever way you lean. thanks for the small reminder to be present.

    xx christina
    www.currentlyexploring.com

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  10. Until now I hadn't heard of the lotus of control but it's definitely a cool concept.

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  11. Never knew the meaning behind this until now, love it! Thanks for sharing girl!

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  12. I always see this, but never really knew the meaning behind it! This is super cool.

    Alix | www.apintsizedlife.com

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  13. I had actually never heard of this - so interesting! Thanks for sharing, and I hope your week is great :)

    X,
    Cristina / cristinawashere.com

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  14. I've had to learn how to focus on myself and how I can control my reactions. I always tell family and friends how you don't have control over other people's actions, but you can control your reactions.

    Fatima
    Publisher | Motherhood Through My Eyes
    http://motherhoodthroughmyeyes.com

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  15. I have never heard of this. What an interesting concept. Thanks for enlightening me!

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  16. I have never heard of this but love the encouragement one can gain through it! Thanks for sharing :)

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  17. This is amazing! I will be trying these tips today. It will probably help with stress or feeling overwhelmed! Thanks for the info!

    xoxo, Candice
    http://www.candicenikeia.com

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  18. I have never heard about this before! I loved reading about it!

    Kristin
    The Blush Blonde

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  19. I absolutely love this! I've been meditating and doing yoga a lot and it's more than a physical exercise it's mental too. This was so interesting!

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