When you tell someone that you're "focusing on yourself," they leave with the idea that you're totally selfish, and I hate that!! Focusing on yourself is a great way to live (within reason). Enter: lotus of control.
I love the lotus of control concept. In a nutshell, there are two lotuses: internal and external. Someone with an internal lotus of control believes that they can influence events and their outcomes, and someone with an external lotus of control believes that outside forces influence everything.
I'd like to think that I have a pretty strong internal lotus of control. I definitely know that I used to think externally, until I realized that no matter what I did, someone would be unhappy with the decision. It simply became exhausting to try and focus on how everyone else was reacting to a situation, so I tried really hard over the past few months to focus on me and how I was responding to a situation. The result has been a more positive life and more self-confidence.
It can be really hard to focus on just yourself and the way you're reacting, but it is so worth it in the end!
Have you ever heard of the lotus of control?