Thursday, July 7, 2016

Recruitment Advice

Sorority recruitment is a terrifying, nerve-wracking experience. You're constantly on edge and wondering how your next conversation is going to go, whether the houses will like you or not, and hoping that the house you like the most likes you back.

For me, recruitment was especially hard because of how homesick I was. I was in a new environment, knew absolutely nobody, and just wanted to go home. But I didn't. I got up and did my hair and make up and put on a smile, tried to enjoy myself, and ended up having a great recruitment experience which lead to joining a sorority and meeting amazing women from all over the country.

While everyone's recruitment experience is wildly different, here is some advice I can give you to make it the best experience possible for you.

This is a picture from one of the first rounds of recruitment for me! I'm on the far left of my Pi Chi. It was too funny looking at all of these pictures.

Stay calm // Trust me, freaking out will not help you. Every girl (even those who look extremely calm) are freaking out on the inside. All of the girls are in a new place, nobody knows what to expect, you're not alone in those feelings. And trust me when I say that the girls inside the house waiting for you are just as nervous as you are! Take a deep breath, smile, and stay calm!

Speak loudly // Speaking loud enough so the girls can hear what you have to say is key. I practically shouted the entire two weeks of rush (my school does it long and drawn out) when I was going through, but I didn't realize how important it was until my first time rushing someone as a sophomore! If I can't hear what you're saying, it makes me feel like you're disinterested and don't want to be in my house. I would much rather hear you the first time around instead of spending some of our precious time together asking you to repeat things.

Keep an open mind // Since I went to an out of state school, I knew almost nothing about the "reputations" of the houses. I'm glad I had no idea about the "popular opinions" because it made it more about me. I wasn't chasing a certain set of letters, I wasn't holding back my love for a certain house because I didn't know what people (who probably didn't know the truth themselves) were saying. I know so many girls who "letter chased" during rush and ended up only being kept by the "bottom tier houses" (which is another stupid concept, in my opinion) and then dropped out of the entire process. Remind yourself why you're going through recruitment: for lifelong friendships and opportunities, to be a part of something bigger than yourself. Not for a certain few Greek letters. (And if you're only going through it for the letters, I seriously recommend rethinking that.)

Trust the process // Getting dropped from a house that you loved sucks. There's no other way to put it, it really just stinks. But the process is the process for a reason. Even though the rounds are short, 9 times out of 10 you will end up in the house that you're meant to end up in, and if not...

Stick with it // Stick with it at the beginning, but you can always drop out of your sorority before initiation. Greek life isn't for everybody, and that's the honest truth. But as long as you're not initiated into an organization you can rush again! Just remember to do it with the right intentions. (I have a friend from high school who didn't enjoy her rush experience, and ended up getting a snap bid (a "bid" to join the sorority after bid day). She wasn't sure she wanted to go, but I told her to give it a chance. After a few weeks she loved it and then ended up serving as president for a term! You never know what might happen.)

A final few things to remember... Sororities are different everywhere so don't compare a friend's experience at another school to your own. And, if all else goes wrong, pizza will always be there for you! This picture was taken after a long day of recruitment in the South Carolina summer - 95% humidity and 100 degrees outside and having to look happy about it!

Are you planning on going through recruitment at your school? I want to hear all about it!


  1. My sister will be attending UNC starting in August and she is planning on rushing! I don't look forward to the many phone calls of her freaking out! I will share this post with her!

    1. My sister went through recruitment last year and I told her these exact same things! She's in a sorority now and loves it. Wish your sister good luck for me!!

  2. Such great advice! I've gone through recruitment, recruitment for a colony, and have been on the other side of things twice!


  3. We had delayed rush at my school which I liked, but it was also so stressful because you knew the girls were watching you all fall before rush! I think the best advice is be yourself so you end up where you belong!

    Laura | Laura Aime Vous

    1. Definitely! There are pros and cons to fall rush and spring rush, but I totally think I would be stressed out the whole time knowing that girls were watching! I also enjoyed having sisters to adjust to college with.

  4. Very cute. I can see how this can be applied to job searching and many other areas in life!

  5. These are great tips!! I especially agree with having an open mind and trusting the process. Sometimes that one sorority you had in your head just isn't the right one for you!


  6. Those are just great tips in general when you're going into a new environment!

  7. Great advice, I hate I missed out on this in school. But pizza...always a good idea!

  8. My college didn't have a big greek program so I never did recruitment but definitely good advice!

    Greta |

  9. I wish someone told me all of this when I was in college! I was too shy and nervous to pledge.

  10. I rushed twice and didn't end up finding a home just because sorority life wasn't for me. These were awesome tips and so true!
    Amy | Pastel N Pink

  11. My school doesn't have sorority or anything. I wish it did I always think it would be great!!!

  12. Staying calm is so simple but so important. I was an absolute nervous wreck during my recruitment and it was just such a waste because everything ended up completely fine, better than fine but I ruined parts of my own experience because I couldn't just relax. xx Merisa | Monogrammed Magnolias

  13. So true!! It can be exhausting but knowing that what the people rushing are probably worried about and giving advice is so helpful. Fun post!

    Sara Kate Styling

  14. This is all such great advice! My friends in sororities have all shared similar sentiments, wishing they knew all of the above before the recruitment process.


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