Wednesday, April 20, 2016

Getting Out of a Rut

March was, without a doubt, the most difficult month I've faced so far. It seems like almost everything went wrong: from friends to getting rejected from my dream internship... It was hard to carry on. Some days felt like a million hours and some days I couldn't even convince myself to get out of bed. Being in a rut, to put it simply, sucks. But there are several ways to get out of even the deepest, darkest of moods.

Listen to your emotions: If you're sitting at your desk trying to study but all you can think about is that one thing that went wrong, or the future conversation you're going to have, or how much you are annoyed by that event or person or thing, don't try to force yourself to focus. Take a second and redirect your focus to handling your emotions. Write about them, go on a run or a walk, or productively take out your anger on something. (Some suggestions: splatter paint, breaking plates (if you live near a railroad track, run until you puke, etc.)

Let yourself grieve: One morning I woke up to the news that I didn't get my dream internship. I was, of course, extremely upset about it, but I naively pushed those feelings down until they bubbled over at an even worse time. I wish I had considered giving myself a grieving period: a time to be upset and cry and be disappointed. When things don't go as planned or as hoped, it can be really hard and that is okay. Listen to your emotions and needs and take a step back to handle them.

Laugh more: This one sounds silly, but it really is true that laughter is the best medicine. Even if you can find one thing to make you laugh I pinky promise that you will feel better. First you force yourself to laugh, then it just comes naturally. It really makes a world of difference.

Look forward to things: I am one of those crazy people that has a calendar filled out all the way through December 2016. I've found personally that when I have at least one day in the future that I"m looking forward to getting through the rough days is a little bit easier.

Go outside: Especially now that it's finally warmer outside, I'm taking my stress outdoors. I go on walks, open up my windows, or even just sit out for a short time and soak up some vitamin C. I really feel so refreshed afterwards and ready to accomplish whatever I need to get done.

Treat yourself: The biggest lesson from Parks and Recreation: treat yo'self. Whether it's Sonic milkshakes or one episode of your favorite show... Take a second and think about what you want or need in the moment and give in. 

Talk to a professional: It is so hard to reach out to a professional for help. It's awkward and uncomfortable, but trust me when I say: it is worth it. To have a third party trained to read your brain and help you communicate better and to make better choices makes it so much more worth it. They can give you more help than any of your friends and family, because they are paid to do so. 

Ruts are the worst thing ever, but trust me, you can get out of them! And remember, sometimes in life there are minor setbacks for major comebacks.

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